Someone is Sexually Abusing Me

"I don’t feel right about what’s happening." It makes me feel dirty and ashamed. This man overpowers me and I feel helpless to do anything about it. Should I tell someone? Who? Is there anyone out there who cares enough to help me?

Yes, we care about you and your life. If he is pressuring you, if he wants you to have an abortion, remember you have rights. This baby is within your body. You can take steps to protect yourself and your baby.

For immediate assistance in a crisis, please call:

Word of Hope at 1-630-990-0909

Or, call OptionLine at 1-800-395-HELP (-4357)

Many people secretly bear the scars of childhood abuse. They desperately struggle with hidden trauma that interferes with their spiritual growth and relationships with others. Some of the effects resulting from abuse are:

  • Low self-esteem, guilt and shame
  • Chronic illness and pain
  • Chemical dependency
  • Sexual problems, such as aversion to sex or compulsive sex
  • Marital/relationship problems
  • Depression
  • Suicidal tendencies
  • Obsessive/compulsive disorders, like overeating, bulimia or anorexia
  • History of exploitive relationships

Whether the abuse is physical, sexual, or emotional, it can cause long lasting emotional problems. We want to help victims understand some of the effects of their abuse, and see the need to participate in their own recovery. They need to be encouraged to know that many victims have recovered and gone on to live satisfying and successful lives. The recovery from the ravages of abuse is a process; a lifelong struggle to face and deal with emotional and spiritual repercussions. Those who have suffered the trauma of abuse deserve to receive help rather than condemnation. “When someone sexually abuses you, they don’t just invade your body…they invade your soul.” The entire person is touched by the trauma: physically, emotionally, intellectually, psychologically, and spiritually

Some common feelings of victims of abuse:

  • Tired- physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Tired of trying to please others and God, just tired of living.
  • Always feeling that something is wrong with them or that they are “less than” others, low self-esteem.
  • Guilt, fear, anger, difficulty trusting

Professionals who regularly deal with victims of childhood trauma believe that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men have experienced some form of abuse before the age of 18.

Myth: The majority of child sexual abuse victims tell someone about the abuse.

Fact: According to a study by Dr. David Finfelhor, close to two-thirds of all child sexual abuse victims may not tell their parents or anyone else because they fear being blamed, punished, or not believed.

One of the first steps in breaking the silence about the “secrets” surrounding the abuse is to share those secrets. This needs to take place in a safe and caring environment and with those who are trustworthy. This sharing will help the individual to identify shaming messages that they received, perhaps from many sources, in addition to the abuse. Growth and freedom from shame will occur as the victim talks about the experience and the shame they feel.The first step in the recovery process is the victim to see the importance of getting support from others: a counselor, pastor, or a support group.